Every family is unique in their own way; some have a mom and a dad, some have a step-mom and a dad, some have two dads, some have two moms, and the list just goes on. What defines a family in the United States has drastically changed since the 1950s where “Leave it to Beaver” was the ideal family model. While the idea of what makes a family is the same, the structure is very different and ever changing. My family most definitely falls under the category of unique, but I would not call us that different from other families. We function the same and the results that were produced were the same, the only difference is I have two moms. Filling out forms at the doctor’s office as an elementary school student, I remember constantly having to cross off “father” and put “mother” instead. The generic forms included a spot for a mother and a spot for a father, but not a spot for any other kind of family. In the past 5-10 years I have definitely noticed changes; I now rarely see a spot for mother and father but now see a spot for “parent one” and “parent two”. These small changes are representative of society as a whole and the slow but sure progress it is making towards equality for all kinds of people. While the term “that’s so gay” is still uttered more times than it should be, the fact that 37 states and counting now legally recognize gay couples shows the tremendous progress towards cultural acceptance that is being made.
While interviewing my parents, I noticed how truly similar my family functioned in comparison with other middle class families that we have read about in class. Both of my parents worked, both of my parents were active in our academic lives, and both of my parents encouraged my brother and me to participate in sports, music and other activities to help shape us into the people we are today. While the makeup was different, the effort and outcome were the same, proving that the kids of gay couples are just fine.