Breaking Away From the Norm: Bravery to “Be the Change

Written by Michael Burns Jr. ’26

As fall embraces Dartmouth campus in vibrant hues of reds and golds, the Student Wellness Center (SWC) continues our journey through the Fall theme of “Brave Connections.” This theme reminds us that bravery is not just about demonstrating strength, but also about the courage to be vulnerable, to step into uncharted emotional territory, and to let our authentic selves shine. For this week of our exploration, we dive into “Breaking Away From the Norm: Bravery to ‘Be the Change’.”

Dartmouth students and community members can mobilize bravery on campus and beyond:

  1. Sexual Violence Prevention Project (SVPP) & Bystander Intervention: At the heart of this week’s theme lies the bystander intervention in the Sexual Violence Prevention Project (SVPP). SVPP isn’t just a program; it’s a prevention strategy that underscores the importance of leadership and bystander intervention in building a safer community. It empowers students, faculty, and staff to understand their pivotal role in preventing stalking, harassment, dating and domestic violence, and sexual assault. But what does bravery have to do with it?

  1. Being an “Active” Bystander: The Power of Bravery: One of the fundamental principles of the SVPP is the concept of being an “active” bystander. It calls upon us to move beyond passivity and take proactive steps when we witness situations that demand our attention. This involves the courage to speak up, to intervene, and to offer support when someone is in need. It’s the bravery to say, “I will not be a silent witness; I will be an active agent of change.”

  1. Challenging Social Norms: Often, societal norms and expectations can virtually force us into conformity, even when those norms go against our core values. This week’s theme asks: Are we brave enough to make choices that align with our values rather than succumbing to misperceived norms?
    • In college, societal norms often have immense influence. Everyday, we encounter a diverse range of perspectives, backgrounds, and beliefs that often challenge our previous beliefs. These encounters can be incredibly enriching, opening our eyes to the complexities of the world and compelling us to reevaluate our beliefs. However, they can also create a tug-of-war between ourselves and a desire to fit in. It’s not uncommon to feel pressure to conform to certain norms, whether related to academics, social life, or career goals. The fear of being seen as different can be overwhelming, and this is where bravery comes into play.
    • An institution like Dartmouth College also plays a pivotal role: Dartmouth’s commitment to diversity and inclusion fosters an environment where students from various backgrounds can come together to exchange ideas and perspectives. Additionally, Dartmouth’s emphasis on a liberal arts education encourages students to step out of their comfort zones, both academically and socially. This unique mix of individuals and academics creates a rich blend of experiences and worldviews, a catalyst for personal growth and the development of courage. In an environment such as this, the bravery to embrace authenticity in a world that often encourages conformity is invaluable. It’s about being the change we want to see not just in our college years but throughout our lives.

  1. Building a Braver, More Compassionate World: Compassion is the bridge that connects bravery to empathy. It’s the understanding that everyone has a story, and sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is to extend our empathy and support to those who need it. Compassionate action transcends barriers and builds connections that unite us as a community.

As we navigate through the term, and really the rest of the year, let’s remember that true bravery lies not just in the actions we take, but in the values and principles that guide them. The Dartmouth Bystander Initiative, the courage to challenge norms, and compassionate action are all pillars that hold up the structure of a safer, more inclusive Dartmouth. It is only together that we can create a culture that encourages authenticity and fosters a sense of belonging for everyone.

Communicating Bravely through Interfaith Dialogue

“Remind yourself that if you think you already understand how someone feels or what they are trying to say, it is a delusion. Remember a time when you were sure you were right and then discovered one little fact that changed everything. There is always more to learn.” – Douglas Stone

Hey Y’all! My name is Ellie Anders Thompson and I am the MultiFaith Advisor at The William Jewett Tucker Center at Dartmouth. At the Tucker Center we focus on helping students engage with Spiritual Wellness. My interfaith work helps students develop the skillset and the knowledge base to become interfaith leaders here on campus, but also as a professional skillset for the workforce. Spiritual Wellness is often defined as the journey to find meaning and purpose in your life. Through that journey, however, we might become exposed to beliefs different than our own. Today, we will look at how to communicate bravely with others and engage in interfaith dialogue. When you engage in interfaith dialogue you have the incredible opportunity to be in relationship with other folks on the journey with you. 

Here are the ways that Brave Communications can happen through increasing interfaith dialogue:

  1. Interfaith dialogue begins by building respect for different identities. We talk about how everyone has the right to their worldview identity, to express it, and to have it accommodated. But that is just the beginning of interfaith because once we create places and spaces where respect is the norm, this is when meaningful relationships begin to be built. Relationships between people who fundamentally disagree about some things, and find other common interests or values have a rich depth. When those folks model that relationship to the communities within their tradition or worldview it creates opportunity for those groups to work together toward a common civic good. This in turn makes our society stronger.

  1. Explore your spiritual identity through practice. Each one of our worldviews, by this I mean our religious, spiritual, or intentionally secular identities, are made up of different beliefs, behaviors, and communities of belonging. Developing your spiritual well-being is the discovery of the different routines you will choose to engage with on a regular basis. For example, a regular meditation or prayer practice, and the frequency of your practice. In interfaith, you see others making different choices about their habits and you can appreciate and learn from them. You can have ‘holy envy’ or a deep appreciation for an element of a practice from a worldview other than your own. Sometimes you might even choose to try out a prayer or meditation style that isn’t from your tradition to have a greater understanding of other’s experiences. Because you are learning alongside others in interfaith relationships you have interesting glimpses into the behaviors of your friends.

  1. Don’t shy away from having challenging conversations about beliefs. It really is one of my favorite things in the world to hear a new perspective, something I’ve never considered, or a new reflection on something. For example, during an interfaith dinner last year, we had conversation about ‘life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”. It came down to a conversation about the difference between joy versus happiness. All the participants in the discussion had this one way of thinking about joy, but eventually another person spoke up and shared a perspective I had never heard about their idea of happiness. It was so interesting, and I asked where their perspective came from because it was completely new to me. I was grateful they shared and gave us all a new angle to see from. It wouldn’t have happened if they hadn’t been there to share. It was an opportunity to weigh my beliefs about happiness and joy and evaluate the impact that was having on my thinking and behavior.

Applications are now open for the Interfaith Alternative Spring Break trip to Washington D.C. Students will travel to Washington D.C. to engage with individuals and organizations doing interfaith work around social issues the group has identified as shared values across their variety of worldviews. Participants will come to see themselves as interfaith leaders who will effect change for a more pluralistic society.  Exploring worldviews can be a continual journey toward your spiritual wellness. It’s made even more rich by traveling with others. We hope to see your application! 

Better Together,

Ellie

Vulnerability: The Gateway to Creativity, Connection, and Purpose

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.” – Brene Brown

Welcome back to the Student Wellness Center’s Fall of Brave Connections! As we delve deeper into exploring the varied and different avenues of bravery, we are joined by Denva Nesbeth Jr. ‘24, who offers insights into how tapping into their strength of vulnerability has served as a personal source of creativity, connection, and purpose.

“I’ve been making music since summer 2017, but it was in late 2022 when I finally gained the courage and confidence to release music on all streaming platforms, and it’s been rewarding in more ways than I could have imagined. Music has been a big point of vulnerability for me because of the amount of confidence it takes to openly put your work out there. I can make an instrumental I love, and it can exist as just a file on my iPad, but once it’s out in the world, it’s not directly mine anymore. There is a level of uncertainty in how it will be received. 

Here are my suggestions for overcoming that uncertainty, connecting with your creative side, and being more authentic in your expressions:

  1. Continue working on your craft because over time you get better at what you’re doing. I mainly started playing beats for my friends 2-3 years after I’d been working on music, so that time allowed me to gradually improve, find my sound, and make things that I felt comfortable sharing.

  1. Know that getting feedback from loved ones will only make your creativity better. If they enjoy it, it can give you further motivation to keep going. If they give some criticism, be open to hearing it because they can provide a perspective you never considered, which can expand your capabilities. When I started playing my stuff for friends and family, they were the ones that kept telling me to put something out and not keeping songs in the vault. Those responses were definitely a big catalyst in me getting the confidence to release my music out on all platforms.

  1. Remember to not overthink because art is about how it makes you feel. I knew that “In the Stacks” would be the first song I would release because as soon as I hit play, it felt great and that’s all that matters.

Denva Nesbeth Jr. ’24

Whether my music relaxes someone, soothes them as they meditate, puts them in a space of flow or focus, or hypes them up, I just want to make people’s day better. That’s the purpose of my music because that’s what it does for me. It alleviates stress, puts me in a place of flow, and provides a great feeling of fulfillment.

I’m grateful for the connections I’ve made through releasing my music and how it has further deepened the friendships I already have. Being open to the music within me had the beautiful ability to create a feeling of belonging and community with others who share similar interests. From making “In The Stacks” to “Reach Higher,” which touches different genres, to my upcoming album “Back in the Stacks,” it excites me to just continue making what I enjoy and I’m grateful for any person who listens.”

Written by Denva Nesbeth Jr. ‘24

Building Brave Spaces

Building Brave Spaces is the work of everyone. Whether you’re the captain of your sports team, leading your greek community, or coordinating a group assignment. 

Our nervous system instinctively seeks safety and comfort. When it senses danger, the amygdala triggers a response that affects our reasoning. For instance, a fellow classmate fearing their idea might be dismissed may choose not to speak up. Yet, by gradually building resilience to fear and discomfort, the nervous system and body-mind adjusts, and speaking up becomes more natural.

Prioritizing acts of courage and bravery lays the groundwork for psychological safety. In educational settings, these acts might involve sharing personal stories, initiating challenging conversations, or supporting learning for others. These actions strengthen our emotional and psychological fortitude, creating an environment where courage fosters true safety.

Steps to Establishing a Brave Space & Environment:

  1. Acknowledge Diverse Perspectives: Understand that each individual brings unique experiences and viewpoints. Recognize and accept these differences, acknowledging the necessity to overcome biases.

  1. Set Clear Expectations: Before conversations begin, establish expectations and ground rules. Allow marginalized voices and those with less power to speak first, and ensure equal opportunities for everyone to contribute.

  1. Foster Personal Connections: Develop genuine interest in others and connect with them on a personal level. As a student leader, finding time to meet individually and build personal connections can ultimately encourage open communication.

  1. Cultivate Empathy: Radical acceptance and attentive listening are crucial components to cultivating empathy. Address issues with a problem-solving mindset and ensure meetings or group interactions uplift participants and make them feel empowered.

Building Brave Spaces isn’t easy, whether it involves sharing experiences or confronting biases. However, as members of the Dartmouth Community, when we commit to diversity and inclusion efforts, courage becomes second nature. With persistent efforts, a space emerges where every voice is valued and appreciated.

Article adapted from: https://www.dalecarnegie.com/blog/create-a-brave-dei-spaces-in-workplace/ 

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