Proceeding with intentionality this winter term, we are doing the inner work of finding space to connect with our core values and identifying intentions for where and how we want to grow. We may have even inspired intentionality in others through this pursuit. But like on any journey, there will be times when we are faced with challenges too. We might follow our path and take a wrong turn. Or lose sight of the trail or of our goal all together. Or be overwhelmed by a series of decisions. It’s important in these moments to not panic, and instead, rely on the simple wisdom of tree hugging to help get us back on track.
Who remembers being told as a child: “if you find yourself lost in a forest, hug a tree”? No worries if you haven’t heard this one before. The basic gist is that advising a small child to stay put when they are lost on a hike (and to take comfort in the company an old tree) helps the chances of them being reunited with loved ones. Importantly, this safety tip helps keep the child in one place, offers the child a reliable, soothing landmark to wait with, and makes it easier for the search party to retrace their steps back to the last known location. The same advice can be applied to moments when we feel lost on our inner journeys.
Hug A Tree to Reunite with Your Intentions:
- Don’t panic. Staying calm in a moment of difficulty can mark the difference between reacting impulsively or responding with clarity. Hug a metaphorical tree by trying a quick STOP practice, which helps create breathing room between you and a challenging moment. Try getting outside to clear your mind (and perhaps hugging a literal tree). Or reconnecting with an activity you have an uncomplicated relationship with (ie. playing music, hanging out with friends, dancing, yoga, etc.). The goal is to help settle the nervous system. As the great meditation teacher Thich Nhat Hanh wrote: “Breath is the bridge which connects life to consciousness, which unites your body to your thoughts.”
- Observe your surroundings. Settling your mind and allowing it to observe a grounded sense of reality for a few moments can help us connect to a range of complicated thoughts and emotions we may be feeling. Perhaps you notice the direction you are heading in is causing you to feel confused or misaligned. Or to feel anxious or fatigued. Label the thoughts and emotions that are arising in you. Try this RAIN meditation to strengthen your self-awareness.
- Check in with your heart’s compass. Once we have created some breathing room for ourselves and identified the emotions underlying our disorientation, proceeding with clarity and intentionality can be more attainable. This allows us the time and space to connect back to our deeper purpose. Establish a journaling practice to root yourself again in your highest aspirations. Perhaps you realize you are taking a burdensome class that doesn’t support your long-term vision. Or perhaps you notice that you are veering away from a lifestyle more aligned with who you want to be. These observations can be powerful signposts that let us know that we are heading the wrong direction. Allow your intentions to show you the way back to your path.
To live with intentionality and purpose is an inherently profound and trailblazing act. Therefore, it is only normal that we will question our path and direction at times. By creating a moment for pause to connect more accurately with how we are feeling and staying true to our heart’s compass, we can be reunited again with the values that inform our long-term vision.